The way I see myself defines the way I am in reality. The way I describe myself, the way I label myself, the way I see myself – all of that has tremendous power. So let’s harness it. Let’s actively choose our labels, and then act in congruence with that label, to get where we want to go.
Because then if I’m not acting in congruence with that label, then I don’t get to claim it, and I don’t want to do that, so it drives me into action.
I consider myself a goal-achiever. So when the going gets tough, I tell myself I’m literally becoming better, and getting closer to my goal, and that doing exactly that is part of my identity as an achiever.
Sometimes I’m tempted to lie or avoid people in order to avoid conflict. But then I remind myself that one of my goals is being authentically honest as much as I possibly can. And I ask myself “what would an authentically honest person do now?” And it gives me the courage to say what needs to be said, even if it’s hard.
By the way it works for other people too…
If you label other people with positive labels, and start to look for examples that connect with that positive label, before you know it you’ll likely find your perspective and perception shift on the whole situation. And for all practical purposes, what you perceive is your reality right?
Calling a toddler “spirited” instead of “loud” or “difficult”. No one wins when you label a child “difficult.” But labeling him/her “spirited” allows you to approach the situation from a different mental state, and gives you perspective and patience. And you may find in response, your toddler becomes much more cooperative, once what you bring to the table changes.
What labels did you choose for you? Claim that label! Let me know in a comment!
Choose ones you feel are either accurate or even aspirational.
What labels did you choose for others? Let me know in a comment!
Choose positive ones, or ones that you wish to see in others.
Need help finding the right words? Here’s some words for ya!
Live by my values
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