Who do you want to be? Do what he/she would do

The way I see myself defines the way I am in reality.  The way I describe myself, the way I label myself, the way I see myself – all of that has tremendous power.  So let’s harness it.  Let’s actively choose our labels, and then act in congruence with that label, to get where we want to go.

Because then if I’m not acting in congruence with that label, then I don’t get to claim it, and I don’t want to do that, so it drives me into action.

Example:

I consider myself a goal-achiever.  So when the going gets tough, I tell myself I’m literally becoming better, and getting closer to my goal, and that doing exactly that is part of my identity as an achiever.

Another example:

Sometimes I’m tempted to lie or avoid people in order to avoid conflict.  But then I remind myself that one of my goals is being authentically honest as much as I possibly can.  And I ask myself “what would an authentically honest person do now?”  And it gives me the courage to say what needs to be said, even if it’s hard.

By the way it works for other people too…

If you label other people with positive labels, and start to look for examples that connect with that positive label, before you know it you’ll likely find your perspective and perception shift on the whole situation. And for all practical purposes, what you perceive is your reality right?

Example:

Calling a toddler “spirited” instead of “loud” or “difficult”. No one wins when you label a child “difficult.” But labeling him/her “spirited” allows you to approach the situation from a different mental state, and gives you perspective and patience. And you may find in response, your toddler becomes much more cooperative, once what you bring to the table changes.

What labels did you choose for you?  Claim that label!  Let me know in a comment!

Choose ones you feel are either accurate or even aspirational.

What labels did you choose for others?  Let me know in a comment!

Choose positive ones, or ones that you wish to see in others.

Need help finding the right words? Here’s some words for ya!

Accomplished
Achiever
Active
Adaptable
Adept
Aggressive
Alert
Ambitious
Analytical
Articulate
Artistic
Assertive
Attentive
Balanced
Broad-minded
Candid
Changeable
Charismatic
Cheerful
Committed
Communicative
Compassionate
Competitive
Confident
Conscientious
Consistent
Constructive
Controversial
Cooperative
Courageous
Creative
Curious
Customer-oriented
Deliberative
Dependable
Determined
Devoted
Diplomatic
Direct
Disciplined
Discrete
Do-er
Dynamic
Easy going
Ecclectic
Economical
Efficient
Emotional
Empathetic
Energetic
Enterprising
Enthusiastic
Entrepreneurial
Exciting
Extroverted
Facilitator
Fair
Fast
Flexible
Focused
Forceful
Forgiving
Friendly
Fun
Funny
Future-focused
Generous
Genuine
Good listener
Green
Hard worker
Helpful
Honest
Imaginative
In control
Inclusive
Incredible
Independent
Individual
Industrious
Initiator
Insightful
Integrity
Intellectual
Intelligent
Intense
Interesting
Introspective
Intuitive
Inventive
Knowledgeable
Leader
Learner
Literate
Live by my values
Logical
Loyal
Mature
Mediator
Meditative
Methodical
Modest
Moral
Motivated
Naive
Objective
Open-mindedness
Optimistic
Optimizer
Organized
Original
Outgoing
Particular
Passionate
Patient
Perceptive
Persistent
Personable
Persuasive
Pleasant
Political
Positive
Powerful
Practical
Present-focused
Proactive
Problem solver
Productive
Professional
Purposeful
Quality
Quick
Quirky
Quixotic
Realistic
Rebellious
Relator
Reliable
Resourceful
Respectful
Responsible
Results-driven
Results-oriented
Self-confident
Self-disciplined
Self-reliant
Sense-of-humor
Sensible
Sensitive
Sensuous
Sincere
Skilled
Sociable
Socially conscious
Solid
Sophisticated
Sporty
Stable
Stamina
Strategic
Strong
Successful
Systematic
Tactful
Talented
Team player
Tenacious
Thoughtful
Tolerant
Traditional
Trustworthy
Unconventional
Understanding
Unique
Unselfish
Upbeat
Vibrant
Warm
Wise

Like this post?  Check out this one about Reframing Your Beliefs.

Hope this helps! It helps me a lot lately!
Kasia

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