Step 3 to making a change: Reframe your beliefs

So you have a change that you’d like to make, but you haven’t made it yet. Why?

Probably part of it is you have a set of beliefs that enable that status quo. In order not to follow through on your change, what story did you tell yourself? Why was it okay that you haven’t done it yet?

I haven’t lost 20 pounds yet. I’ve been trying for a year and a half. It hasn’t happened. And I’ve told myself all kinds of stupid things to justify that.

  • I look mostly okay (the word “okay” is like the death blow to any motivation a person might have, ever.)
  • I reaaaaally don’t like exercise.
  • I can eat this way and still lose weight (clearly not true).
  • I don’t have to track my foods closely in order to lose weight.
  • Other people’s feelings are more important than sticking to my diet.
  • I can make an exception because this is a special occasion.
  • I can make an exception if I really want to eat something.
  • I don’t have to exercise if I really don’t feel like it.

So – if we change our story, we change our lives. It’s pretty simple. Deepak Chopra said that. So we need to reframe these, and change our beliefs. And once that happens, you’ll find your new path much easier to follow.

So how might a person go about changing their story? It’s individual of course, but here’s how I”m changing mine.

  • Nothing is more important than losing these twenty pounds.
  • If I don’t lose these twenty pounds, my life will be worse for it. If I do lose them, I’ll have the world by the balls.
  • Every pound I regain erodes who I am as a person.
  • Exercising and eating right every day is congruent with what I stand for and who I am
  • What I do with my body is a representation of what I’m doing with my life. If I take care of my body, I’m taking care of life. If I’m neglecting my health, I do not have my shit together.
  • Sometimes exercising and eating right is a drag, but not doing so is the ultimate pain, because being disappointed in myself is the worst feeling I can ever experience.
  • Exercising and eating right can be easy and fun, and if I do it every day, it will get even easier.
  • Food is fuel and nourishment for the body, and not something to get feelings from.
  • When denying myself foods not on my plan, or feeling like crap during a hard workout, I am not going to lament it anymore. Instead, I shout “Yes” in my head, smile, close my eyes, and feel myself literally becoming better, and getting closer to my goal. Because doing exactly that is part of my identity of being an achiever.
  • When I do the things I know I need to do, I feel really good about myself.  I get an endorphin rush.  I feel in control of my life.  I feel like I’m on the way to somewhere extraordinary.

I am going to shift my mental programming to this.
How are you going to shift yours?

With love,

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