The Pleasure/Pain Spectrum and How to Use It

14770774391_ea86909628_zI’m listening to some Tony Robbins lately whenever I think to fit it in – usually while I’m driving, cleaning the kitchen or making my morning coffee. And I just came across this concept, which he claims is key, and that is basically that the only reason we do things is that we think we will get pleasure from them.  And the only reason we don’t do things is because of the pain we believe is involved.  And the more I think about it, the more it’s definitely true for me.

So – the key to changing these things that you wish you were doing but you aren’t, or but you are doing, but you wish you wouldn’t, is to move on up or down the pleasure/pain spectrum via changing your associations and thought processes.

He challenges you to list some of these things you’re struggling with and then takes you through a process with an attempt toward moving you along the spectrum.

I managed to come up with a list of maybe 20 things that I am not quite pleased with, but right now my top one is this: I totally should have lost my last 20 pounds by now, but I haven’t.

Soooo the next step is to get real and sincerely ask myself WHY haven’t I done these this?  And I’m supposed to try to be brutally honest. What am I negatively associating with this, that I think is so painful?

Well – I think I will have to bring my A game to lose the 20 lbs. I’ve already lost about 90, and that was a lot of hard work, sacrifice, and dedication.  I think I will have to bring just as much hard work, if not more, to make these 20 pounds happen.  I think I will have to not eat things I want to eat.  I think I will have to not drink when other people around me are drinking. I think I will have to exercise when I don’t want to, or a type of exercise that I don’t like.  I will have to be socially awkward and eat things that are different from what other people are eating.

So – what to do about this? And how to fix it?  Stay tuned for Part 2.

Let’s do this,
Kasia

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