This one is for my peeps in various stages of making New Years Resolutions.
Are you going to make one? Do you know what yet?
If you don’t, but you want one, here’s a way to find one.
I am shamelessly copying this from an MIT course about how to design your life. But before you can chart a course, you must find yourself on the map.
1. Rate each area of your life (areas listed below) on a scale from 1-10.
Use the rating scale at the bottom of the assignment as a guide.
For each area that’s not at a 9 or 10:
2. Write out what a 9/10 looks like for you in that area. Be complete in your
description. Create the full picture in detail.
3. Explain the circumstances that have you say you’re the number you chose
versus 9/10. What is really going on in that area of your life that isn’t
4. What is your explanation for why it makes sense that you would end up at
that number? What’s gone on in your past or your family that have it make
sense that you’d end up at that number.
5. What are the reasons why you can’t have what you want in this area? What
are your negative beliefs?
10 Perfect. Unsustainable state of affairs. Reserved for individual episodes and fleeting moments.
9 Highest sustainable rating for a category.
8 Highly satisfactory state of affairs. Significant additional focused effort will be needed to elevate rating to a 9. A source of pride.
7 Solid, can’t complain, coasting because it’s good enough but not a source of pride.
6 Weak, but not painful. Frayed around the edges. Can talk oneself into it being a 7 but it’s not easy. Needs work but doesn’t have to be today.
5 A 6 that’s been around a while. Still not intolerable but likely the issue or the necessary remedial steps are being actively avoided.
4 Getting to be intolerable…but not yet. Requires a great deal of justification and/or denial to continue this number at a sustained rate.
3 Things are bad. Very bad. It is not yet life threatening or a point of no return, but close.
2 Things are hopeless. You wonder why you exist. There is much pain. Virtually unbearable.
1 Fleeting moments of hell. Unsustainable level of displeasure.
The Areas of Life
1. Satisfaction with School/Work/Vocation
2. Body/weight/appearance/presentation/how you look
4. Your relationship to yourself (what do you say about yourself to yourself)
5. Bad habits/vices (biting your nails, overeating, drinking, smoking, partying,
addictions, including what’s a great time for you, how many drinks can you
handle and still be able to drive, how often do you do it)
6. Relationship (whether you’re in one or not)
7. Sex (including, are you happy with the quality, how often, cheating of any sort – and your history, comfort with your body, your happiness with the size of what you’ve got, the last time you had sex)
8. Romance – giving and receiving attention (not flowers)
9. Characteristics that don’t work about you (anxiety, anger, moodiness, etc)
10. Participation in your family – your parents/siblings/etc.
11. Money/wealth (including, are you happy with the amount you earn, the amount you’ve saved, how you spend it, how it’s managed, etc.)
13. Time (how you manage your time)
15. Being organized/the physical universe
16. Learning (wanting to learn about things you are not taking the time for like flying or guitar)
If I wrote out my answers to this this would be about a 2-week blog series of naval gazing that I won’t put you through.
But my top three goals are #1/12 Vocation, #2 body issues, #18 spirituality – but I do plan to keep an eye on virtually all of these areas and make some progress. half the time, just identifying what WOULD a 9 be, and how would I get there, is super empowering.
Hope you learn something about yourself in this,