When to Follow Others’ Advice

“Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.” – Mary Schmich

I have been getting well meaning advice from a few sources the past month or so. I am really lucky that people care enough to want to give me advice. I am really fortunate to have people in my life that wish me success and want to see me do well. I am glad that people are plugged in enough to take the brain cycles they have, and spend it on my endeavors. And I am thankful to each and every one of those people. They took a risk to give me advice. And I appreciate that.

But it doesn’t change the fact that of course of all of the advice I receive in life, so much of it conflicts. So who should you listen to? When should you listen? When do you substitute the advice of someone else over your own thoughts?

I saw this last week. It spoke to me.
And then I saw this.
And then this morning – I heard this.

I’m a believer in signs. So – I think I’m onto something here.

So here’s my two cents about when I take advice to heart. And when I don’t.

1) Do not,  for even one second, listen to someone tell you that you can’t do something, that something just isn’t going to work, or that something is unrealistic, or stupid, or a waste of time. (unless they are backing it up with some reasons, in which case proceed to #2 in this list). And okay, I’m gonna say it – fuck that noise. Tune it out. Because that’s really mean-spirited advice that probably, deep down, has nothing to do with your product, or you, and everything to do with the advice giver. Note these people, and control their influence on you in the future. It’s possible that’s a toxic relationship in your life.

2) With all other advice, listen, check in with your gut instinct, and ask yourself:

      Does this match my vision? Does this take me to where I want to go?
      Does this advice empower me?  Do I feel like taking action on it?
      Do I basically feel right/good with it, even if it’s not what I want to hear?

If you can say yes to all 3 questions – follow it and don’t look back.
If you can’t say yes to all three, and it has to be all three, then don’t.

To finish up, that’s what this blog is about… recycled advice from a bunch of different sources. It’s here for you to ponder, and see how you feel about it. If it speaks to you, great!  I hope it makes your life better than you thought possible. If not, then don’t follow it… I’ll have something new for you tomorrow to consider. 🙂

Hope it helps,


  1. One of the greatest lessons I have learned is to email listen, weigh things out for myself then take what I can use and discard the rest. I am experiencing the same sort of dating issues and hoped that my words would open up a door to communication and the perspective of someone outside of myself.

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