I was talking to my best friend once. It went something like this:
Me: I have this huge belly that sticks out, my clothes don’t hang on me right, I’ve been trying to get this weight off forever and it just won’t budge. I totally suck at this; I feel like I’m never going to get there. I am so damn weak. It’s like I’m destined to be fat, Forrrreverrrrrr.
Her: Your inner voice is not being very nice to you. At all. You’d never say that to me, ever. So why are you saying that to yourself?
And it made me realize that I should attempt to treat myself at least as well as I treat those close to me. Because who else am I closest to but myself? Not to say that I don’t make mistakes and slip up, of course I do, but in this case, I figure it’s time to reframe the situation, and also recognize what I did right.
The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person tells us that a key skill to losing weight, and probably making any big, difficult change, is to give yourself credit for the things you do right. Doing so will help you keep a positive attitude, notice progress you’re making, no matter how small, and make further changes easier. It will also make you feel as if you are in control. It will put your mistakes into perspective as things you can learn from, rather than excuses to say “Oh Fuck It All And Hand Over The Carton of Ice Cream”. (You know. Not that I’ve done that… lately…)
What have you done this week that you deserve credit for? Even if it’s not related to weight loss. I KNOW there is something, even if it’s as small as reading this post and giving it serious consideration. As small as it is, you deserve credit even for small things, because we are all struggling to make changes, and every single time we take a step forward is a time to feel good about doing right by ourselves.